Episode
267
A common frustration I hear from contractors is, "I don’t have enough time." But when we peel back the layers, we often discover time being swallowed by distractions like Instagram, TikTok, or YouTube. These platforms are designed to grab your attention and keep you hooked with quick hits of dopamine.
Dr. Clarke explains that addictions—whether to social media, work, or anything else—are often a way of coping with stress or unmet needs. It’s not about blaming yourself; it’s about awareness. Ask yourself: Am I using these platforms as a break, or are they becoming a barrier to my goals?
Have you ever felt like your success was a fluke? Like one day, someone will discover you’re not as qualified as they think? That’s impostor syndrome, and it’s more common than you’d expect, even among highly successful contractors.
Dr. Clarke shares that this mindset often stems from childhood experiences, where you may have internalized messages that you’re not "good enough." The key to overcoming it? Reflect on your achievements and remind yourself of the hurdles you’ve already cleared. You’re not an imposter—you’re an achiever.
Self-sabotage often disguises itself as procrastination, perfectionism, or overreacting to perceived disrespect. Dr. Clarke highlights the "disrespect button" many men carry, which can lead to conflict in professional settings. Recognizing these triggers is the first step to stopping the cycle.
Practical tip: When you feel yourself reacting strongly to a situation, pause and ask, Is this about the present, or am I reacting to something deeper?
One of the most surprising insights from Dr. Clarke was about the importance of play. Yes, play. For many contractors, the drive to succeed started early, often at the expense of carefree activities. Over time, this can lead to burnout.
Dr. Clarke recommends carving out time each week for an activity that brings you joy—something with no purpose other than fun. Whether it’s fishing, pickleball, or even piano lessons, these activities can recharge your mental and emotional batteries.
Your mindset is just as important as your business strategy. By addressing hidden barriers like impostor syndrome and carving out time for yourself, you’re not just improving your mental health—you’re building a stronger foundation for long-term success.
Take a moment today to reflect: What’s one small change you can make to break a pattern that’s holding you back? Sometimes, even a small step can lead to a giant leap forward.
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